I am allowed to have my opininons

I don't like bullshitting around. We were all raised certain ways; I was taught that if I had a problem with someone I should not gossip or back-stab them and I should confront them and talk about it.

Yesterday at work, I had a major problem with one of my co-worker. She would constantly enter a "depressed" state, this meant that she would stop working and then bitch to us about how upset she is over the fact that she's a twenty-seven year old virgin. She doesn't say it directly, but she's suggesting that the *only* reason that she is single is because she's overweight.

This girl always complains about her weight. She is not morbidly obese, just a little bit overweight, maybe 15kgs higher than she should be. If she had the disease where she cannot lose weight (I remember reading about that somewhere?), I would be much more sympathetic. However, she has lost weight in the past, but somewhere along the lines she just gave up, and let herself -- emotional and physical -- waste away.

I have many friends who are not in the "perfect weight range" but the difference between them and this crazy girl is that they don't bitch and moan about it every hour. My brothers are also overweight; however, they accept it, they're comfortable with themselves, and they are very confident too.

"Vigilant, what do you think?" She asks

"Do you really want to know?"

"Yes"

"Well... I think that your unhappiness stems from the fact that you're unhappy with your weight, and that you blame all of the negative things on your life on your weight problem. I think that you're taking the easy way out".

That was all it took. The other co-workers all gave me the "oh no he didn't!" face.

God damn!

Look, I am not going to defend myself to anyone, but I am allowed to have opinions. I watch my weight down to the micro-gram. If I gain 1kg, I instantly go on a diet until I'm back to the weight that *I'm* comfortable with. I don't constantly bitch to my friends or my co-workers that (1) I haven't had ice cream in over a month, (2) that I'm tired from all the exercises and running, (3) that I really want a triple chocolate cake from Starbucks but I restrain myself. I don't bitch about all of this to my friends or co-workers. I just DO it. I really can't stand people that bitch and moan about something (that can be changed) and then don't do a thing about it. Okay, if it's something that you seriously cant change then that's just unfortunate; however, if it's possible to change that negative aspect of your life (by your own effort, or otherwise) then there should not be any excuses.

In her case, she bitches and complains all day, and the only thing she does about her problems is to put some more fried chicken and watermelon into her gut.

I also hate the fact that my co-workers act all sincere and give her "empty" advice.

What good are your advice if you don't follow through with them! It's so easy to tell someone "oh, all you need to do is just go for a two hour run every day for two months and you'll be in shape!". But, isn't it better if you followed through with your advice? For example, if she had let me, I would have helped her exercise and diet and lose weight; I wouldn't have thrown advice at her. I would've followed through.

We're not in a third world country. There is help readily available for this sort of thing. I want to tell her to stop being ashamed of herself and seek help.

But then she had to act like a crazy bitch.

So, now I'm the black sheep among my co-workers.

Fuck em'